Is your relationship struggling a little at the moment? With everything going on right now, it’s even harder than usual to have a happy, healthy relationship. If you’ve not read the book The Five Love Languages then there’s a good chance your relationship is not living up to its full potential. The premise of the book is that everyone has a main love language, which is both how they show love to others and how they receive love, too. Generally couples have different love languages, which can mean they’re both trying to show their affection to their partner in a way that doesn’t really register to them.

Knowing what your partner’s love language is, and finding ways to truly express how you feel to them in a way they understand, is a fast way to transform your relationship. If you’re interested in making leaps and bounds in your relationship read on to learn more about the five love languages and how they can help you have the relationship you’ve always hoped for.

1. What Are The Love Languages
The five love languages are: receiving gifts, acts of service, quality time, touch and words of affirmation. The reality is that there wont be just one love language that makes someone feel loved, however there generally is one that is strongest and is the most important to each person. Finding out what your love language is, and what your partner’s love language is, will help you both communicate your affection for each other so much better.

2. How To Figure Out Your Love Languages
I think it can be a fun activity to do as a couple. I suggest discussing the love languages together and then trying to figure out what your own love language is and what you think your partners is. Sit down and compare the results – did you both think the same for each of your love languages? If you’re not really sure what your main one is, cause a few seem like they could be yours, then think about how you show affection to those you care about. If you tend to buy surprise gifts, then receiving gifts might be your love language. If you prefer to spend quality time together and that’s how you show you care, then that might be your language. Once you’ve figured out your partner’s love language, you can begin to focus on ways to make them feel truly loved.

3. Focus on Their Love Language
If you know your partners love language is touch, for example, then you’re going to want to get creative about ways you can show that in your every day life. It might be as simple as making it a part of your routine, especially if it does not come naturally to you. You may want to remind yourself to give them a hug and kiss every time before they leave the home. You may want to set up a regular time to watch a show together, so you can cuddle on the couch and enjoy that closeness. You may even want to look at buying some dildos or other toys to spice things up in the bedroom and keep the romance alive there. Whatever you do, be sure to focus on showing them love in a way that resonates to them.

This is one of the simplest changes you can make in your relationship that will bring the greatest results. Please let me know in the comments below if you’ve tried this method and whether it worked for you!